When going through a divorce, you want to do everything you can to make it easier on your kids. But how can you do that? The nature of divorce makes this a tricky situation to navigate.
But it is possible to take steps that will help your child cope with news of divorce in a better, healthier way. What do those steps involve?
Providing stability
Psychology Today discusses the impact of collaboration on the divorce process. This is the single biggest step you can take to easing the way toward acceptance of divorce. Why? Because it gives your child the solid foundation and sense of stability they need to cope with earth-shaking news. Divorce will always impact children in a big, profound way. This is unavoidable. After all, a fundamental part of their life will change forever.
But collaboration shows your child that you will set aside differences to continue supporting them. It shows maturity in that you can work together without sabotaging each other. It provides them with a sense of security. You can also reassure them of your continued love during this time, which helps provide stability and much-needed comfort.
Working together
It also lets you and your co-parent work together rather than against each other, which just makes everything run in a smoother, more streamlined way. For example, you can hash out your discussions together before bringing your child into it. This lets you anticipate their questions, decide what you will not discuss, and approach them in a well-organized way. It also helps you avoid the he-said she-said issues many divorcing couples face with their kids.
From a stable platform, you can accomplish much more. This is why collaboration is a great starting point for you and your child.