Just like every marriage is unique, ending a marriage is a little bit different for everyone. Some people in Texas have to figure out what to do with a family home. Others have to sort out how to divide debt. Though these are two different issues, they are still part of the same process — property division. So, no matter what you might be dealing with during your own divorce, there are a few things you should keep in mind.
For example, it is a good idea to keep emotions out of things. This can be understandably difficult. Marriage and divorce are much more than legal processes, and both illicit strong emotional reactions. It can be easier to keep those emotions in check when you have a better idea of what behavior is actually helpful.
Put everything on the table
You and your ex-spouse accumulated assets over the years, and now neither of you wants to let go of them. One or both of you might be tempted to hide a few marital assets on the side, but this is never a good idea. Not only will it negatively skew property division to one person’s benefit, but it can also land you right back in court months or even years in the future. It is best to fully disclose all assets — including income and debts — when asked.
Having an accurate record of income is important for support payments too. If you earned less than your ex or did not work, you cannot get the full alimony that you deserve unless everyone’s income is on the table. This can also negatively affect child support payments if you have children.
Save big changes for later
Divorce is already a life-altering process, though it is almost always for the better. This actually encourages a lot of people to reconsider other aspects of their lives in which they might be unhappy. While this type of introspection is great, acting on anything significant while going through a divorce is not always a good idea. Accepting a job in another state, moving hours away or even taking a position in another country are all things that should wait for later.
You also cannot just change the terms of your temporary visitation or custody agreement when you feel like it. If you do think the agreement is not meeting your child’s best interests, you can always ask a judge to modify it as needed. However, when you take the matter into your own hands, you are ultimately violating the agreement. This can make it a lot harder to get custody and visitation rights in the future.
Remember to get help
At some point during your marriage, you and your soon-to-be ex might have faced difficult situations together. You already know that having the support of someone who is on your side makes a world of difference. Divorce is no different.
You do not have to wonder whether you are making the right decisions or if you are navigating the process all wrong. Working with an attorney who is experienced with Texas family law can ease those worries, creating an easier path to the end goal — a successful divorce. But since what defines a successful divorce is usually personal, it is a good idea to talk about your goals with your attorney.