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How to address your money problems after divorce

On Behalf of | May 30, 2023 | Child Custody |

Sharing parenting expenses with your ex is an important step following your divorce. However, it may not be easy and could even burden you at times. For instance, paying alimony might pinch your finances severely enough that you cannot afford certain activities for your child.

It is understandable if you feel frustrated at your situation. Nonetheless, you should be careful what you say. Venting about your money woes in front of your child could cause your loved one emotional distress. U.S. News and World Report provides guidance on how to talk about your situation.

Speak to another adult

When you talk about things that bother you, you probably want to improve your emotional state. However, venting about your ex could make your child feel troubled since your former spouse is also the mother or father of your child.

Instead, consider discussing your issues with adults that will not reveal your frustrations to your child. Trusted relatives and friends are a good place to start. You may also discuss your problems with a therapist. Other adults can provide you with helpful feedback to better your situation.

Addressing money matters with your child

Limiting your communications does not mean you should never tell your son or daughter anything about your money situation. The key is that you do not blame your co-parent or even hint that your child is too costly for you. Ideally, your child should understand that you cannot afford some expensive purchases and scale down expectations.

Some couples end up in litigation over alimony or child support. Avoiding conflict and managing your costs in tough times could pay off with less stress and a better working relationship with your ex.