Divorce is a complex topic to broach. However, both you and your spouse’s lives will improve after separating in many cases. Even if you know this is true, approaching your spouse about divorce probably gives you some trepidation.
According to Statista, the Texas divorce rate has steadily decreased since 1990. However, the rate still sits at 11 percent, meaning thousands of divorces occur every year. If you worry about initiating the divorce process with your spouse, see below for some guidelines on your approach. Remember, you are not alone in your struggle.
Be honest but not malicious
The key to a successful conversation is to straddle the line between honesty and brevity. Do not use the topic of divorce to hurt your partner, but you should still bring valid reasons for the failure of your marriage. At the same time, you do not want to put all the blame on your spouse. Stick to obvious things that both of you failed at. Do not bring a detailed list of every mistake your spouse made during the marriage. Instead, think of ways you tried to repair the situation and failed.
Timing is important
Timing is also an important aspect. Do not try to ambush your partner at an inopportune time. Make sure you have plenty of privacy to have your discussion, and make sure no one will interrupt you during this intense conversation.
The reality is you cannot create a perfect divorce plan. Your best path forward is to prepare for a difficult conversation and try to remain cordial with your spouse. Create a safe environment to broach the subject and be sympathetic to your spouse’s emotions.