When the family unit breaks up, children have different reactions based on their age.
If you and your spouse have decided to divorce, you must put an effective co-parenting program into practice to help your children adapt to the new life ahead.
Older children, especially those in their teens, may feel anger concerning your divorce. Younger children may fear that you will abandon them. At any age, your children may feel that the divorce is somehow their fault, and some may try various ways to get you back together. Encourage your children to express their feelings and assure them often that you love them and will always be there for them.
You may not be happy with the actions of the other parent at times but refrain from using angry words and criticism around the children. Following a divorce, both parents need to set an example and show respect for one another.
Communication between you and the other parent will be especially important as you continue to raise your children. As co-parents, you need to exchange information about the children often so that you are both up to date on their needs, their activities and any problems that arise. Taking care of misunderstandings at the outset will keep small issues from escalating into major conflicts.
One parent may have physical custody of the children and the other may have legal custody. Many parents also have equal legal custody and share decision-making responsibilities on behalf of their children. The court will make child custody decisions based on the best interests of the children. You can help by establishing a co-parenting program that ensures your children will have a secure and loving future in a post-divorce world.